When I struggled over these years ago, I phrase came to me: I will the way. For me it was the merger of this western, masculine idea of willing, of taking responsibility, with an easter, taoist, feminine sense of submitting to the flow, of a higher will.

I think ‘rightness’ is when the two meet. Like a dance where we have to choose our steps, but the dance is only really graceful when the steps we choose align with those of the other (god, tao, spirit, whatever).